This image is a screen shot from my visit to LinkedIn. Dwight Drinkard is one of my LinkedIn connections. Last week he posted this picture. I liked the words so I shared the picture with my entire LinkedIn network. As you can see, 105 people have appreciated this photo and 6 people have commented.
I covered up one of the names because I don't want to discourage people from sharing constructive comments. Even thought the person who commented does not agree with the Sandra Bullock quote, he shared his thoughts without being ugly.
The bottom comment is over the top. I don't know Sandra Bullock personally. Perhaps the person who wrote the ugly comment does. I don't know anything about her marriage choices. Even if I did, I am in no position to judge Ms. Bullocks choices. Apparently the person who made the rude comment sees things a different way. This is an Emotional Intelligence issue.
“Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results. Emotional intelligence is made up of four core skills that pair up under two primary competencies: personal competence and social competence.” Travis Bradberry
This is an example of poor emotional intelligence on the part of the person who wrote the last comment. He has a right to have an opinion but it is an Emotional Intelligence skill called Impulse Control that he appears to not have under control.
So, apparently I have no wisdom because I agree with something that Sandra Bullock might have said. Even if she didn't say what is in the picture and someone else did, I still appreciate what is written.
I hope this example enables you to see what poor Emotional Intelligence looks like in action and how the last comment was deeply insulting to me. The person who commented by the way is a 3rd level connection to me and he does not know me.
The good news is that for someone who is humble, teachable, coachable and in search of positive change, Emotional Intelligence can be coached and changed for the better. I am certified and trained by Multi-Health Systems to leverage their EQi-2.0 Emotional Intelligence assessment. It is a powerful tool that gives me an instant snapshot of where my client's Emotional Intelligence lies based on 15 skill measurements.