Hey Introvert...Here's a People-Meeting Strategy For You



What’s the purpose of this article? To give you a people-meeting, networking strategy you can execute even if you’re the shyest person in the room.


Not long ago, an entrepreneur attended the most amazing conference he had ever attended. The audience included over 700 entrepreneurs from around the globe who came together to learn a game-changing methodology.

While waiting for the conference doors to open, the entrepreneur began to meet some of the most interesting and stimulating people he’d ever met in his life. Within minutes of the conference hall filling up, the energy created by this unique group of innovative, risk-taking, idea-generating, business-creating entrepreneurs was uniquely evident.


Having watched posts in a private Facebook group connected to this conference for the two weeks prior to the conference, the entrepreneur knew that many introverted entrepreneurs would be in attendance. The entrepreneur himself was not a social butterfly, but he wasn’t entirely shy either.  He made it his intentional strategy to introduce himself to enough people to generate one new take-home relationship per day.


He crushed his goal by meeting on average, ten new people per day. If you’re an introvert who is headed to a conference, do you make a point of tapping people on the shoulder and simply introducing yourself?  This entrepreneur did this and he didn’t encounter a single person who was not willing to get to know him.  Tapping a stranger on the shoulder might be the most difficult thing you’ve ever done, but you’re about to learn the rewards the entrepreneur received by initiating conversations.


On the second day of the conference, activity ran from 9 AM to 9 PM. The entrepreneur ’s conference extended beyond the normal conference hours by way of an extended 2.5-hour meeting he shared with one of the most amazing conference attendees who is now quickly becoming a new friend and business partner.


The entrepreneur’s simple plan formed a connection with another conference goer. This meeting was a simple handshake between sessions. The meeting might have lasted for 3-4 minutes but that’s all. The entrepreneurs were from the US and Germany. These two shy conference goers are about to become business partners as well.


These meetings happened because the entrepreneur took the initiative to tap people on the shoulder who were sitting in the row in front of him for three days in a row. This is exactly what he did and said.

  • He tapped people on the shoulder during breaks
  • Hi, I’m Tom…what’s your name? Where are you from and what do you do?

That’s it! He did nothing more difficult than what you just read. He discovered, by monitoring the Facebook group, that many people who were headed to the conference were anxious about being in a crowd of 700 and thinking that they might be the only shy person in the crowd.


If you’re an introvert yourself, there’s nothing to lose when you tap another introvert on the shoulder. They might even be more nervous about meeting new people than you are. Whether they’re nervous or not, forming the intention to meet people, setting goals for meeting new people, and then executing on your strategy is a no-lose proposition.

Not only did the entrepreneur intentionally tap people on the shoulder, he moved from one section to another in the conference venue over the three days of the conference so there would be a 100% chance that he’d be sitting next to and behind different people throughout each of the three days.


If he’d never tapped shy people on the shoulder and executed a simple get to know new people strategy, the entrepreneur would have never met his new business partners.

It all began with an intention that was acted upon. You, Mr. or Ms. Introvert, can do this too!

Jeff Snyder’s, Self-Confidence Building Coaching Blog, 719.686.8810

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Courageous it in You?

Courageous Leadership defines Courage like this: the quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc., without fear; bravery.

Many authors have suggested that leadership requires courage.  The Clifton StrengthsFinder™ specifically isolates and measures a person’s courage in a trait called Self-Assurance®.

The Clifton StrengthsFinder™ defines Self-Assurance® like this: People exceptionally talented in the Self-Assurance® theme feel confident in their ability to manage their own lives. They possess an inner compass that gives them confidence that their decisions are right.

More than 16.7 million people globally have now taken a Clifton StrengthsFinder™ assessment. When 15,000,000 had taken a Clifton StrengthsFinder™, I crunched some interesting numbers.

Out of 34 traits, Self-Assurance® comes in at number 33 in terms of how often it shows up in a person’s Top 5 traits or themes.  Out of 15,001,435 StrengthsFinder™ assessments, Self-Assurance came up 710,060 times in assessment taker’s Top 5 Traits.  This number equates to .047% of the time.

When I dug further, I found that for men, Self-Assurance® came up .061% of the time in their Top 5 themes. For women, Self-Assurance came up .025% of the time in their Top 5 themes.

Self-Assurance®, as measured by the Clifton StrengthsFinder, ™ is a powerful influencing theme.  What this means is that people who have this trait and people to turn this trait into a strength are specially equipped with a talent that fits well in leadership roles.

If you lead or you want to lead, find out where the Self-Assurance® falls among your 34 traits on the Clifton StrengthsFinder™.

Don’t stop once you find out. The power behind the Clifton StrengthsFinder™ occurs when a person:

  • learns their potential strengths
  • when they take ownership over their potential strengths
  • when they turn their traits into strengths and
  • when they properly aim their strengths towards work or activities where they can produce the best version of themselves

This is what an experienced Strengths Coach can do when you engage with them in their Strengths Coaching methodology.

Jeff Snyder’s, Jeff Snyder Coaching Blog, 719.686.8810


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Is the Self-Assurance Strength One of Your Top Strengths?


Self-Assurance is a Clifton StrengthsFinder theme.  It is one of 34 themes that each one of us has but we have each theme in a different order than the person next to us.  When a theme appears at or near the top of someone’s theme list, it might be one of their Strengths.

People who possess the strength of Self-Assurance are generally confident in their own abilities.  They possess a high internal confidence telling them that their decisions are the right decisions.  People who possess high Self-Assurance are generally confident that they can take risks and that the risks they take will result in delivery.

It’s not just self-confidence that this person possesses.  They also tend to have high confidence in their own judgment. 

Self-Assurance is a Strength that the Clifton StrengthsFinder places in an “Influencing” category.  The person who possesses this strength can often lead the way.  They can instill confidence in people around them.

You can find out how you’re uniquely wired and you can learn how to turn your unique set of strengths into leverage that comes out in your personal power!

Jeff Snyder Coaching

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